Couples Therapy

Do you both want to do the work?

We start with honesty. Not the barbed kind, but the kind that allows for an interplay. When we’re at an impasse, it’s difficult to imagine that two opinions and two sets of needs could co-exist in one relationship.

My job is to help you do that. My job is to help you communicate in ways that allow you to have difficult, nuanced conversations with two perspectives. I want both partners to leave my office feeling deeply understood.

When we start getting honest, we can get to the heart of the matter. We can start to know what went wrong, and we can learn how to sort it out.

We all develop relationship habits from our childhoods. Some of these habits are caring and kind, but some of our habits might be unconscious (i.e., outside of our own awareness) and unconsciously detrimental.

My job is to help you gain awareness of what you’re doing in the relationship (both productively and detrimentally) so you can get a handle on how you really want to treat each other and start creating behaviors that nourish your bond.

What can you get out of couples counseling?

Here are some of the things couples learn with me:

My client couples learn how to work through conflict and return to the connection.

It’s not always easy, but it’s worth every bit of the effort.